Today I say goodbye to a decade and welcome life in my thirties. I used to be afraid of getting older. I didn't want to turn thirty. But today, I couldn't be more excited to be saying goodbye to my twenties and to start this next chapter in my life. One of my favorite bloggers did a similar post for his thirtieth birthday and I had to take inspiration from him.
Life is full of ups and downs. Challenges and celebrations. Laughs and cries. Here are 20 things that I learned in my 20s:
- Giving up coffee is not worth it. Don't do it. Enjoy that trenta unsweetened black iced coffee. It's delicious. It's the elixir of life.
- Love yourself. Be proud of who you are. This one took a while for me to learn. I came out when I was 29-years old. Not because I didn't know that I was gay, but because I wasn't secure in who I was. We all have unique things that make us who we are. Don't be ashamed of them. Be proud of those things. Love you who are and love what makes you you!
- There are no guilty pleasures. Yes, I love Britney Spears. Yes, I love shopping. Yes, I have Celine Dion's Las Vegas show on DVD. I've learned not to feel guilty about any of these things.
- Fight like hell to chase your dreams. We have one life to live. Find what you want to do and stop at nothing to make it happen.
- Don't make decisions in life simply because you think it's what is "expected" of you.
- Pizza is its own food group and is okay to eat at least 3-4 nights a week. Cheese. Sausage. Pepperoni. Delivery. Frozen. It's all fair game. Just don't ever eat DiGiorno!
- Try not to overthink every little thing. At the end of the day, you're likely stressing yourself out more than is necessary. And really? The things you are worried about may not even be true.
- Hangovers only get harder as you age, but Pedialyte cures all. Seriously. How do you think I survived four days of Lollapalooza?!
- Find an escape. Mine is writing and photography. Yours could be reading. Or exercise. Whatever it is, allow yourself time to forget about the responsibilities and worries you face.
- Force yourself to see the world and experience new things. I grew up and went to school in the Midwest. It's all I knew. But there is so much more out in the world. Different cultures. Different people. Different viewpoints and different ways of life. Expose yourself to those things and allow yourself to relish in the fact that we are all human beings and our differences and background make us beautiful.
- Don't take yourself too seriously. Sing in the car. Dance like a fool. Make weird noises.
- Be happy. Life is full of ups and downs. That is a part of life. But we can choose how we react to what life throws at us. Choose happiness. Find joy in everything.
- La Croix is bae.
- Surround yourself with loving, encouraging, supportive people. Life is hard. Make sure you have people that will be there with you through the ups and downs.
- Take risks. Move to a new city. Go on a blind date. Challenge the status quo.
- There is nothing wrong with spending an entire day on the couch eating Goldfish, drinking coffee and watching episode after episode of Nip Tuck.
- A classic white tee is a must. Jeans. Shorts. Leather. It goes with anything and everything.
- A glass (*cough*bottle*cough*) of rosé when you day didn't add up is sometimes exactly what the doctor ordered.
- Sunburns are the worst. Never use spray sunscreen and always reapply.
- Learn to love and be loved in return.